Kobe Bryant, who, after spending 20 years in the league, got retired in April, has written an open letter on Wednesday on The Players’ Tribune to his 17-year-old self , which is focusing on how one should treat their loved ones.
“You need to figure out a way to invest in the future of your family and friends. I said INVEST. I did not say GIVE.”
Recently when Kobe’s parents were attempting to auction off his high school memorabilia, he wasn’t happy about that and talked about his unsteady relationship with them.
Last April, Kobe said to ESPN’s Ramona Shelburne:
“Our relationship is s—, I say [to them], ‘I’m going to buy you a very nice home, and the response is ‘That’s not good enough’?” Kobe said. “Then you’re selling my s—?”
Bryant blamed himself for letting his wealth to hold his family and friends back.
“You will come to understand that you were taking care of them because it made YOU feel good. It made YOU happy to see them smiling and without a care in the world and that was extremely selfish of you.”
Bryant also said that weaning them off has resulted in anger, resentment and jealousy from everybody involved, but he also made clear that his stopping to support them financially has made his two sisters reconcile.
“They’re very smart, college-educated women. I’m really proud of them. They were able to get their own jobs, get their own lives, take care of themselves. Now they have a better sense of self, of who they are as people, instead of being resentful because they were relying on me.”
He ended up his letter by giving some advice to the youngsters, he wrote:
“There’s plenty more I could write to you, but at 17, I know you don’t have the attention span to sit through 2,000 words. Trust me; setting things up right from the beginning will avoid a ton of tears and heartache, some of which remains to this day.”